Insulting, Bullying and Cognitive bias.

I posted a comment “Senyum pose begitu inget kah kayak siapa coba? and my sister answered Mr. Bean.
Those actions remark; I insulted somebody, I did a bullying.

I am afraid to be impulsive and tend to think more. As I am taught to be analytic and critic, I would tend to analyze rather directly build a conclusion. Then, questions run to and fro in my head; what really insult is? What really bullying is? Am I bully somebody? Am I insult somebody?  Am I as bad as the judgment? 

What insult is?

Longman dictionary explains semantically insult as (1) to offend somebody by saying and doing something they thing is rude | (2) To say and do something that suggest you think someone is stupid.

If insult means telling a guy that he is stupid, is intelligence closely related to a smiling pose on a photograph? This kind of question brings me to ask what really intelligence is?

Intelligence has been defined in many different ways including one’s capacity for logic, abstract thought, understanding self-awareness, communication, learning, emotional knowledge, memory, planning, creativity and problem solving. It can be more generally described as the ability to perceive information, and retain it as knowledge to be applied towards adaptive behaviors within an environment, this is simply what I got from Wikipedia.  

On the other hand, Jean Piaget, a psychologist in his book “Psychology of intelligence” explains intelligence has logic, the axiomatics of states equilibrium of thought. Questions raise; what thought is? Is it brain’s product? Is it beyond brain? Is it brain capacity? Is it brain performance? How I examine the state equilibrium of thought? Well, I am too immature to understand many concepts in a single occasion. 

Now, I ask myself again, could a judgement of insulting someone's intelligence stand as easy as evaluate based upon a statement? Similarly, in taking conclusion of insulting in the sake of rude assumption.

What about Mr. Bean? The well-known stupidity symbol. 

Yes, you do insult by analogically remark someone smiling pose similar to Mr. Bean.

I would agree that this conclusion might be irrelevant, too fast and less scientific. As Aristotle took the fundamental logic before taking a conclusion, I am afraid taking a hurry conclusion and would let myself be Aristotle follower. Then, please let me think more and raise my understanding.

What bullying is? Did I suspect for doing bullying?

Daniel Lines, in The Bullies; Understanding bullies and bullying. Pupils response bullying is punching, kicking, slapping and pushing. In this term, exactly, my action is not categorized as bullying. Furthermore, Bullying is not as simple as deliberate and unjustified physical violence. Following these are definitions of bullying. 

Bullying is a wilful conscious desire to hurt another and put him/her under stress

(Tatum and Tatum, 1992). 

Bullying is long-standing violence, physical or psychological conducted by an individual or a group against an individual who is not able to defend himself in the actual situation (Roland, 1989).

Bullying is a special case of aggression which is social in nature.

(Bjorquist, Eckman and Lagerspetz, 1982). 

Bullying happens when one person or a group tries to upset another person by saying nasty or hurtful things again and again. Sometimes bullies hit or kick people of force them to hand over money; sometimes they tease them again and again. The person who is being bullied finds difficult to stop this happening and is worried that it will happen again. It may not be bullying when two people of roughly the same strength have a fight or disagreement.

(Mellor, 1997)

Again, one of comprehensive definition has been concluded by Ken Rigby; Bullying involves a desire to hurt + hurtful action + a power imbalance + (typically) repetition + an unjust use of power + evident enjoyment by aggressor and generally a sense being oppressed on the part of the victim.

Based on Rigby definition I am not personally intended to hurt, I am not do repetition, I have nothing unjust power, I am not sensibly being oppressed, whether if I were identified as a bullying-actor, consciously I am not intended to.

You doubt brain's performance from a maths brilliant, Sekar !

I am extremely disappointed for an exaggeration assumption which was claimed that I contemptuously doubt somebody’s brain performance, cleverness. This is just about smiling pose. Just it no more. Or probably could I claim that I am bullied?  As this put me under stress based upon Tatum definition.

I am looking for answer and maybe “Thinking Fast and Slow” a book by Daniel Kahnemann, 2002 Nobel laureates (so far) gives best answer. With Amos Tversky, in this book, Kahneman explain a cutting-edge theory in psychology of judgement and decision making. They established cognitive basis of common human error that arises from heuristic and biases. What would I say here is, let’s endeavour our thinking to look deeper than just surface depiction, and do deliberate consideration before either judge or decide. Simply, some of Khaneman’s concepts summarize in the following image.

What my reaction is to the anger declaration as a result of my action?

I would sending apologize and deliver abundance of thanks for this kind of reminder. Probably, out of my control, I was indicated for insulting and bullying, please kindly erase my mistakes. Personally, Far deeper from my heart, I never ever intend to hurt anyone. I would also remark anger declaration coming to my personal massager as the expression of love. I believe, that was not the loathed expression on contrary they want me to be better. 

Am I as bad as the judgement?

Now let’s assume those aforementioned objectives are just rhetoric. Or I just do self-defense on a “crime” that I did. I would say, this evaluation is out of my domain. You are a foolish homo sapiens Sekar, yes I agree as this would raise my curiosity to asking questions and finding out pathway to get answer. What do you know, Sekar? I would answer, I am Sokrates big fans, whoever stand that I just know that I know nothing.